How Do You Succeed Without Trying?
Well, if you read the title, let me answer this quickly: you simply cannot. And here’s why: people born with “luck” isn’t really a real thing. You can be born into a wealthy family and still fail at life.
And how do you even define failure? Because I don’t mean the people who fail and keep trying, that’s not failure, that’s growth. I’m talking about the failure that comes from not trying at all. When everything in life is handed to you, you have to build discipline to maintain that so-called “luck,” otherwise it will crash and burn right in your face. Hence the fact: you cannot succeed without trying.
Make sense? Are we on the same page about my definition of failure? No? You think there’s more to it? Sure, okay. But in reality, if you’re not willing to try, nothing will ever be done.
The point I’m making is this: if I decide to put my full effort in today, in a year I will have made a huge impact. And that’s exactly what I’ve been doing for the past five years. Let me tell you, people who knew me then definitely don’t know me now. They’re shocked at the difference. Maturity, awareness, ability, all of that grows when you actually decide to change.
A lot of people have reasons to stay still. But in reality, reasons and excuses mingle together, shaping your mentality and your thoughts. If you say, “I can’t do something because of X,” then you are 100% correct, because you’ve convinced yourself of it. You will continue to perceive it that way.
Our thoughts are our biggest influence on reality. But those thoughts are formed from our experiences. If I say, “I can’t do something,” it’s because of an event that convinced me I couldn’t, and I refuse to challenge it because it’s already settled in my mind.
So how do you change? Simple: listen to yourself. We all have an inner consciousness waiting to be awakened. That little voice in the back of your mind is always trying to help you see differently. The irony is that our reality is built out of perception, shaped through our past experiences.
That doesn’t mean you can’t think for yourself. The point is you can, but you have to recognize that “your thoughts are not you,” as the famous Alan Watts once said. Thoughts are just a collection of everything you’ve heard, learned, and experienced. And in the end, you will have your own perception.
Because let me tell you, if I had listened to everything people told me, I’d be a useless, ugly loser who couldn’t do anything. And for a while, I was in that state. But I chose differently. If I had kept listening to that garbage, I’d still be stuck there.
The truth is, what people say about you is nothing more than a reflection of their own beliefs, perceptions, and identity. Like one guy once told me I was wasting my life because I may or may not want kids. That’s his belief system, rooted deeply in him. There’s nothing I could say to change that, because his own thoughts refuse to allow any other possibility. And that’s fine, it’s not my responsibility to explain to someone that humans only chase “goals” because society handed them those scripts. Beyond that, in reality, we are free to do as we please. Outside society’s expectations, we are free.
Anyway, I didn’t have anything specific to write today, so I decided to rant about this. Because when life feels still, you’ve got two options: stay stuck, or find the discomfort and hop on that train.
Camille B.
